WHERE’S YOUR FOCUS?
I’m always asked how I am so positive about everything, especially after everything I have been through. For me it’s really simple. Life is a series of tests, how you choose to react to them is entirely up to you.
After reading my book before it was published, a friend had this to say to me:
‘I’ve never had control over how people made me feel about myself. How can I focus on the positive side of life rather than the negative?’
Bit of a two part question, so I’ll answer both. Can you relate to this at all? I find too many people focus on the negative aspects of life far too much which ultimately means they miss out on even the little positive things that happen every day.
The answer to the first part of the question is a simple one. You are in control of your thoughts and feelings, no one else. People can be cruel and mean purely because it makes them feel better, without any regard for how it makes you feel. Try and remember that next time someone makes an unhelpful comment directed at you.
On a daily basis most people tell themselves negative things, ‘I hate x about my body’ or ‘why do I always do that to myself.’ So as a way to control how you think about yourself I have another challenge for you.
Every day for the next 30 days, the very first thing you do is go to your mirror, look yourself in the eyes and say: I am beautiful – or whatever word works for you. I want you to say it 10 times each morning and say it like you mean it. Don’t just run it off your tongue to say it as fast as you can. Honestly look at yourself, up and down your body if you like, and say it like you mean it.
Now for the second part of the question, how can you focus on the positive side of life rather than the negative? If you have read my book you’ll know there are a lot of daily activities I do for myself which make me happy. One of them is writing in a gratitude journal. The idea behind this is at the end of every day I write between 3-5 things I was grateful for that day. It doesn’t matter if it was something as small as waking up feeling refreshed, a stranger who walked past and smiled at me, or something bigger like helping a client achieve a goal. Whatever you’re grateful for that day, write it down.
If you do both of those activities for 30 days, I can guarantee you’re going to feel a whole heap better about yourself and your life.
I’d love to hear how you go with these so feel free to drop me a message.
To your happier and healthier future,